I just had an ask about this and I figured I would share my response here as well.  So in response to how I found the lifestyle, here’s the story.  (Ask more questions if you wish.)

Well…I found the lifestyle when I wasn’t looking for it.  At the time, I was having problems with my ex-husband and talking to a friend who said that it seemed like I was tired of being in control all the time and that perhaps I wanted a man to control me.  The friend told me to google D/s and BDSM.  I’d never really thought anything about that stuff prior to being told to do some research.  The only thing I’d thought about were the stereotypical images of people in leather yielding whips.  

As I did more research, I learned more about myself.  I realized that I always had been submissive in my relationships.  I enjoyed serving and doing things for my man, I’d just never had a man who made me want to do it all the time.  There’d never been anyone I felt comfortable giving TOTAL control to…and no one who ever felt like they wanted to have that much control over me. 

My husband and I split (for totally unrelated reasons) and I got to explore.  I went online and started talking to people about the lifestyle.  I eventually started dating and getting to know Doms…and eventually I met someone that worked for me.  On the way, I made some awesome friends and once again learned more about myself.

So when I say it’s a personal expression of who I am…it is about me giving a part of myself that not everyone gets to see.  I AM a submissive.  I’m not just putting that on.  It comes natural to me and it’s always been underneath the surface, but it hasn’t always been something I wanted to (of knew how to) share.  I am in a place now where I understand myself in a way I had not previously, so I can show that side to someone.