Not Role play. Just me.
Settled

Things have calmed down in my life so I should be posting a lot more.  I want to get back to my D/s topics and life has been getting in the way.  Tumblr is great, but is not exactly a top priority so I do my best, lol. 

Hopefully all of you are doing well.  Between natural disasters, war and this Ebola outbreak, this world is quite a scary place.  That said, try to realize the beauty of every day and not sweat the small stuff.  I’m doing what I can do learn that lesson myself. 

In the meantime, feel free to message as I will be around more.  I’ll be back later, I promise.  ;-)

theangrytherapist:

I think there’s a difference between kind and nice. Sometimes, nice people are not kind because they want something in return. Approval, acceptance, money? I find that nice is not consistent sometimes. Or it’s contingent on something. Nice can be loaded, false, on the surface. Kind runs deep. Kind…

denofthelinguist:

QOTD: Why do men /women open up people’s hearts just for fun? Why keep a hold on someone that you don’t see fit in ur life? Why act as if a person is the only one in your life but you seek and spend time with others? Are people that selfish?

I often wonder the same thing. 

My belief is that people are selfish assholes who care nothing about anyone but themselves.

Experience is simply the name we give our mistakes.
Oscar Wilde (via kushandwizdom)
D/s and Life

Posting some links in response to the comments and feedback I got about my post about my not relating to D/s blogs that don’t talk about having that type of relationship along with real-life responsibilities.  The goal of my blog to make D/s approachable, remove the mysticism and help people see if they are really lifestyle D/s people or just want bedroom play.  This isn’t for everyone.  

People want some down-to earth posts…ask and you shall receive. Here are my various opinions/thoughts on that:

I live in the real world:

http://subbieblackgrl.tumblr.com/post/78376577750/i-live-in-the-real-world

Being a submissive in the real world:

http://subbieblackgrl.tumblr.com/post/67955785607/so-are-you-his-sub-all-the-time

On training:

http://subbieblackgrl.tumblr.com/post/58755289940/training

On rules:

http://subbieblackgrl.tumblr.com/post/53152240946/rules

The “right” way to D/s:

http://subbieblackgrl.tumblr.com/post/52741160405/whats-the-right-way-to-do-this-d-s-thing

Not like the romance novels:

http://subbieblackgrl.tumblr.com/post/52024783584/its-not-like-the-romance-novels

Are you sure this is for you:

http://subbieblackgrl.tumblr.com/post/51116895513/so-you-want-to-be-a-dom-or-sub-you-sure-about-that

Being a sub is a lot like being an employee:

http://subbieblackgrl.tumblr.com/post/48966188574/why-being-a-submissive-is-like-being-an-employee

Being a good Dom is a lot like being a manager:

http://subbieblackgrl.tumblr.com/post/49136386643/why-being-a-dom-is-like-being-a-good-manager

How to find other kinky people:

http://subbieblackgrl.tumblr.com/post/47500981606/so-im-kinky-now-what

Have realistic expectations:

http://subbieblackgrl.tumblr.com/post/46298458812/its-bdsm-not-magic-have-realistic-expectations

Doms should care:

http://subbieblackgrl.tumblr.com/post/34924834698/not-role-play-just-me-because-he-owns-you-doesnt

You need more than just a safe word:

http://subbieblackgrl.tumblr.com/post/34924559913/not-role-play-just-me-how-do-you-use-a-safeword-when

Being a mom and a submissive:

http://subbieblackgrl.tumblr.com/post/29587673963/a-mom-and-a-submissive

Play punishments vs Real ones:

http://subbieblackgrl.tumblr.com/post/51045857101/play-punishments-vs-real-ones-repost

D/s and everyday life:

http://subbieblackgrl.tumblr.com/post/27092882864/everyday-d-s

Is this play or a lifestyle for you:

http://subbieblackgrl.tumblr.com/post/20181143957/vanilla-people-who-enjoy-bdsm-vs-lifestylers

Ever been to a glory hole?

Nope and I don’t plan to.  

datheathen:

ivanhattori:

asslikemattfacelikegilinsky:

flavolaval:

listoflifehacks:

If you like this list of life hacks, follow ListOfLifeHacks for more like it!

Men of tumblr. Your duty awaits

im just waiting for them to post pictures of themselves in these dresses

What started off as a joke has now done nothing but make me feel pretty… 

Am I doing it right?